If you’ve found yourself at a point in your own relationship where you don’t know whether to stay or to go, peruse this list of reasons why some women choose to leave despite loving their significant other. Hopefully it will help you sort out your mind and the confusion within!

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1. You have nothing in common anymore.

At the beginning of a relationship everything is new. We go in bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, completely infatuated with that person for relatively simple reasons. But as these relationships mature, you need to have some form of common ground or common interests to help keep you both engaged with each other.There will come a point where you know all of each other’s past stories and experience, so you need something to build future stories together.

2. You don’t “talk.”

Communication in a relationship is key to its survival. This doesn’t just mean day-to-day utterings of “how was work?” It means being able to express your feelings adequately to your partner.Whether what you have to say is good or bad, you can’t expect your partner to understand you if you aren’t on the same page.

3. Your partner has become too selfish.

I think it’s important to define what I mean by selfishness. This doesn’t mean that prioritizing oneself in certain situations is selfish. Ultimately, you are the one that has to be happy.But sometimes, I think we take this to an extreme. If you’re typically a very generous and giving person, you need to be careful of those who could take advantage of that. That makes them selfish.If you feel like you’ve taken the brunt of too many bad moods or sacrificed your own personal growth too many times, it might be time to leave.Someone who truly loves you and is healthy for you will make it a point not to take your nurturing demeanor for granted. And vice versa.

4. You stopped having se_x.

Se_x isn’t everything — unless you’re having absolutely none.This is a tricky one. All se_x has to be consensual and welcomed. But this can be a challenge for a lot of reasons. If you feel disconnected from your partner or you don’t feel comfortable with yourself, this can make doing the deed really difficult.But, this goes back to #2 — communication. You need to be able to identify why you don’t want to have se_x, or why your partner doesn’t want to have se_x with you. A lot of the time, there’s a solution to the problem. But sometimes, it ain’t never gonna happen. And at that point, it might be time to discuss parting ways.