When a guy pursues a girl, all he cares about is getting her to fall for him. He may be in love with her, he may be infatuated by her, or he may just be trying to get into her pants. It doesn’t matter what his intentions are. But he’d say just about anything to get the girl he likes to fall for him!


So how can you ever tell if a guy truly loves you, or is just saying that to get you to fall in love with him or get into bed with him? Inspired by LovePanky, here's how to tell if a guy means it when he says he loves you;

1 He says it first. There’s no pressure or need to say that he loves you, but he still says it when you least expect it *and he doesn’t expect sex in return*. He’s not forced into it and you haven’t asked him a question like “do you love me?” He says it because he means it. 

2 He looks into your eyes. 
His eyes reveal his feelings for you. He stares into your eyes tenderly and lovingly when he says that he loves you.

3 He squeezes you. Does your boyfriend squeeze your fingers or your arm when he says he loves you? When you really care about someone and love them, you can’t help but want to wrap them really tightly in your arms.

4 The long kiss. He says he loves you after kissing you passionately, and then he comes closer again and continues to kiss you for several more seconds. 

5 He holds your hands. When you’re sitting next to him, has he held your hands gently and played with your fingers or stroked them while saying “I love you”? He may be feeling awkward or shy to say it, but his overwhelming emotions may force him to pour his heart out to you.

6 The cozy hug. He hugs you affectionately, and kisses your neck while saying how much he loves you. Hugs, cuddles and kisses always make us weak and we can’t help but say the things we really want to say.

7 When you least expect it. A guy who’s trying to sleep with you would say that he loves you when he thinks you’re expecting to hear it. But if a guy truly loves you, he’d say it not just when he thinks you want to hear it, but even in moments when you least expect him to say it.

8 He sounds serious. The tone of his voice would reveal just how serious he is. He looks you into your eyes, and tells you matter-of-factly that he loves you. He’s not saying it to get something back in return, he’s saying it with the sole intention of letting you know that he really loves you.

9 He looks vulnerable. A guy won’t reveal his vulnerable side to a girl if he’s just trying to get into her pants. He’d try to play it cool or act cocky instead. But if a guy really loves you, he’d reveal his vulnerable side and appear completely helpless in your arms.

When he’s confessing his feelings for you, he’d appear almost weak and he’d talk slowly, and say “I love you” almost in a whisper like he’s telling you a big secret that he keeps close to his heart. He may even seem like he’s overcome with emotions because he’d want you to understand just how much he means what he’s saying. 

10 Close proximity. A guy who loves you can’t hold his loving words back when both of you are all alone and sitting really close to each other. He’d want to cuddle you or kiss you, but most urgently, he’d want to tell you just how much you mean to him.

11 When he does something special. When a guy who loves you gifts you something special to show his feelings for you, his gift will almost always be accompanied with an “I love you”. It’s his way of showing his appreciation for you *by giving the gift* and revealing his feelings at the same time.

12 Jealous love. Has this guy ever told you how much he loves you when you’re having a petty fight, or when he feels insecure because you’re flirting with some other guy? When a guy tries to express just how much he loves you when he’s angry, it’s a sure sign he really loves you.

After all, in that heated moment, all he wants to do is reinforce just how much you mean to him and how much it hurts him to see you with someone else. 

13 He talks about the future. If he says something serious about your relationship or talks about the future together, and says that he loves you in the same sentence, that’s a good sign that he means it. He sees you in his future and that thought makes him realize just how special you are to him. 

14 Your intuition. This is as simple as it gets. Your guy may not reveal all these signs here, or it may be too early in the relationship to know if he really loves you for sure. But the easiest way to trust a guy when he says “I love you” is by following your instincts.

If you really think he means it, there’s a good chance he probably does. After all, what better way than to trust your instincts when you fall in love with someone!