As we mentioned above, the best way to be certain of a man's virginity is to ask him outright. There is no definitive tell-tale sign or anatomical indicator to reveal his sexual status. In women, it is easier to tell because the hymen breaks during sexual intercourse and normally leaves a little bit of blood.
Men, however, have no physical indicators that can help us determine their virginity. However, listening to our intuition and picking up on some behavioral traits might be the key to finding out is he is sexually experienced or not.
One of the first things to look out for is his physical relationships with women. A man who is particularly shy around women and is reluctant to touch them in any way is most likely a virgin. You might notice that, when you or another woman go to hug or touch him, he becomes flustered and awkward, without quite knowing what to do with his hands.
Shyness about touching a woman decidedly reduces in men who have been intimate in the past and they do not come across as being quite so awkward or agitated. A virgin will often keep their distance and so physical contact with the opposite sex will be non-existent.
If you have an inkling that your new partner might be a virgin, test the waters by planning a date and turning up the heat a little. Observe how he reacts and how he moves: this will help you determine if he has been in this situation before. His reaction might go either way:
- He might become very shy and be paralyzed with nerves, barely moving an inch and not daring to look at you.
- On the other hand, he might become overly excited and nervous and his movements will be fast and erratic. He might be jittery or clumsy in his actions and come over as a little desperate.
However, whilst we consider these to be strong indicators of a partner's virginity, remember that they are not set in stone and are far from foolproof. They might simply be inexperienced lovers who still haven't overcome the jitters when getting intimate with a woman, as opposed to complete virgins.
A strong hint as to whether a man is a virgin is when he goes to unfasten your bra. Although this may seem a little cliché and as though it has come straight from a romantic comedy, it really is a strong indicator of how experienced a man is. Let him unfasten your bra and observe his hands, his composure and his nerves. Is he confident in what he's doing? Does he come over all flustered and dumbstruck?
However, we should remind you that these 'signs' might be misleading. There are men who have had multiple relationships and still can't unfasten a bra. To the other extreme, some virgins have felt so worried about the prospect of looking clumsy when getting intimate with a woman that they have gone to extreme lengths to prepare for this all-important moment and have actually practiced at home!
When it comes to moving the relationship to the next level and having sexual intercourse, the sign and signals become all too clear. Most inexperienced or virgin men begin touching you clumsily and quickly, without really knowing what they should do or where they should place their hands. Moving their hands all over your body quickly and in a frenzied manner are sure-fire signs that they've never had a sexual encounter in the past.
Other inexperienced men make up for their lack of knowledge by watching adult films. Some make the mistake of pretending they are sex gods and that they have a wealth of experience between the sheets. Of course, when it comes to it, reality often falls short and his lack of experience will be obvious.
However, it's possible, if not unlikely, that your man is a naturally good lover andunderstands how to work a woman's body during his first sexual encounter. So, if you had a previous inkling that your man might be a virgin but then he wows you in bed, you might understandably start doubting his virginity.
So, as you can see, there are some signs that help you determine if your man is a virgin or not but none of them are foolproof or guaranteed. Often, you might mistake his lack of experience in the bedroom for virginity so the best thing to do is to be open and ask him outright if he is a virgin. Let him know that it's nothing to feel embarrassed about and can actually be a positive thing (it might make lovemaking more special, no risk of STIs, etc.) Communication is key in any relationship so bite the bullet and talk to him about it.
If you are going to take the plunge and make love for the first time it's important that both of you are open and honest for mutual enjoyment and satisfaction. Here at OneHowTo, we'll give you some advice on how to avoid pain the first time as well as suggest the best sexual positions for the first time.
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