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Six bedroom mistakes you must avoid.


Couples face serious difficulties when it comes to s*x and this has brought about serious trouble in so many relationships. Here are the six bedroom mistakes you must avoid.

MISTAKE #1: THINKING YOU NEED A “DATE NIGHT” TO CONNECT

If you’re like most couples, the first thing you do when you want to reconnect is schedule a “date night.”
“The idea is that after a fancy dinner, candlelight, and wine, you’ll come home and want to jump each other,”says Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., a s*x and relationship therapist and author of The New Monogamy.
But what really happens after a meal of rich food, a few glasses of wine, and a late night out?
“Most couples want nothing more than to go to sleep,” Nelson says.
The fix: Send the kids out while you and your partner stay home alone.
“Think of this as a sacred time for the two of you to practice ‘planned’ spontaneity,” Nelson suggests. “It’s a much better way to act out all of your fantasies, without feeling bloated and hungover the next day.”

MISTAKE #2: FORGOING SEX BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT IN THE MOOD

Adult life is exhausting, and stress can decrease desire, says Nelson.
But if you wait to have s*x until you have plenty of free time, you may be waiting a long time.
The fix: Just do it, and you’ll probably be glad that you did.
If you’re genuinely crazed from obligations and short on time, you can still fit in a quickie, says Nelson.
“The s3xual contact will make you feel connected to your partner and can reduce the stress in your marriage,”says Nelson.
S3x also helps release endorphins and dopamine, serotonin, and other brain chemicals that can reduce your stress during the day and help you sleep better at night.

MISTAKE #3: FALLING INTO A RUT

There’s something to be said for s*x so familiar that you can anticipate what’s coming next.
“Each of you knows the buttons to push for the other, and if you have a routine that’s giving the other a good orgasm, then by all means, keep at it,” says Nelson.
But it’s not uncommon for couples to get entrenched in habits that aren’t working. They just aren’t sure how to change them or worry that speaking up will hurt the other’s feelings.
The fix: “Pick one day a week to do something different,” suggests Nelson.
Start by telling your partner three things you appreciate about her s3xually, plus one bedroom move you’d like more of. Then listen as your partner does the same.
“Talking about s3x can increase the s3xual tension between you, and if you do this exercise in bed, it can really turn up the heat,” Nelson says.

MISTAKE #4: WORRYING HOW YOUR SEX LIFE STACKS UP

From leaked s3x tapes to the latest episode of Game of Thrones, we’re inundated with s3xual images—which can put an outsized amount of pressure on us to look or act a certain way in the bedroom.
“S3x isn’t supposed to look like porn,” says Amy Levine, a s3x coach in New York City and founder of IgniteYourPleasure.com. “S3x in real life can be awkward, takes practice, and has the potential to be incredibly intimate and vulnerable.”
The fix: Be open-minded, Levine says. “Be present, know what feels good to you, communicate your wants and desires, be yourself, and find your confidence.”
In other words, approach s3x with your partner, she says, “without judgment or expectations.”

MISTAKE #5: TAKING YOUR EMOTIONAL CONNECTION FOR GRANTED

When was the last time you really spoke to your partner, other than to confirm what’s for dinner?
Thanks to hectic, overscheduled days, the majority of time we spend with our partners takes place when we’re asleep, says Paul Hokemeyer, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist in New York City. “But quality relationships require an intimate emotional connection during awake times,” he says.
The fix: Have a 30-minute conversation with your partner before shutting your eyes, Hokemeyer advises.
Turn off all electronics and snuggle or discuss the events of the day, and while you love your kids (or your pet), having them around at this time will “squeeze out the romance,” he notes. “Set clear boundaries and enforce them.”
Khabza Mkhize

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