Having sex in the dark can be hot, mysterious, and physically flattering for everyone involved. But, shying away from the light can mean cheating yourself (and your partner) out of a mind-blowing sack session.
"It's a myth that only men are visually oriented during sex," New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First. If you can't see your partner, you're missing out on a huge aspect of sensory stimulation, he says.
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"With lights on you expose yourself more to your partner and create the opportunity to generate even greater trust and get to know one another even better," says Dana Weiser, Ph.D., an assistant professor of human development and family studies at Texas Tech University. It can be incredibly sexy, she adds, because you get to make eye contact and see your partner's reactions to the pleasure you're giving them.
If you're still a little hesitant about lighting it up in the bedroom, try easing into it by flipping the switch after foreplay, says Kerner. "As you get more aroused, your inhibitions are lower and you might be more open to letting in some light," he says.
Not convinced yet? Here are seven more reasons to consider coming out of the dark.