Found this interesting article in the UK Daily Mail written by Sexpert Tracey Cox, who revealed the 50 things females need to know in bed.
Read below and share your thoughts...
1. You'll have your first orgasm by yourself. Few of us are lucky enough to start our loving lives with a lover who's so patient and skilled he can teach us about our own bodies.
2. Enthusiasm and being willing to try (almost) everything once is what makes you sensuous. Looks, breasts, legs up to your armpits – they'll only take you so far.
3. A vibrator is the quickest, easiest, most effective way to stimulate the clitoris, which is how most women orgasm.
4. You won't become 'addicted' to your vibrator.
Using it often won't put you off having the 'real thing' - quite the opposite!
Women who regularly use love toys have higher libido and orgasm quickly and report less loving dysfunction. The only 'bad' thing that can happen is feeling numb from having it up too high. Panic not - It's temporary.
5. Only 20 percent of women can orgasm purely from intercourse.
His ex-girlfriend, who used to climax every time, effortlessly, within minutes of him penetrating, was lying.
6. he'll be useless in bed if he can't kiss.
This is especially true of men who stick a stiff tongue down your throat the second you lock lips.
7. The male reproductive system is join-the-dots stuff. The female reproductive system is complicated and not terribly well thought through.
Who thought putting the clitoris outside the vagina would be a good idea?
8. Anyone can be good in bed. But you need an excellent working knowledge of your subject and experience and be willing to take and give feedback.
9. It's obvious if you don't like love. All the tips and tricks in the world can't teach you how to fake I'll-die-if-I-don't-have-you-now desire
10. The chances of you both climaxing together are doubtful. So let's all stop pretending and faking just because that's what couples do on the telly and in the movies.
11. If you fancy a threesome, do it with someone you're not in love with. It goes much smoother in your head than in your bed, and is is not much fun if you're a frothing mess of jealousy and insecure paranoia.
12. You'll have a much better love life if you match up with someone with the same libido. Everyone's love drive spikes at the start, but about eight months in, you'll get a good idea of how much love you both naturally crave. Mismatched love drives are the main reason couples fight about love. If you can possibly manage it, stick with your tribe.
13. No one is born a brilliant lover. Love skills can be taught, and brushing up on the basics just to check you're on the right track is something everyone should do. We can all improve.
14. It doesn't mean you're boring in bed if he wants to try something new. Let go of the concept that 'you should be enough.'
It's hard enough to make love happily to the same person for the rest of your life. If you don't have variety, you've lost the game before it's even started.
15. Men are visual. They like looking at sexy things.
It's usually that innocent.
16. Both men and women like foreplay. Quickies are great occasionally but dreary and unsatisfying if that's all you're offered.
17. Don't confuse love and lust. You spend a tiny proportion of your lives having love.
It helps if you like hanging out together the rest of the time.
18. Men like to be touched twice as hard as women. Their skin is thicker. This doesn't mean you should be rough, though.
19. Giving oral love without using your hands is as effective as bobbing for apples in a bucket of water with your hands behind your back.
3. A vibrator is the quickest, easiest, most effective way to stimulate the clitoris, which is how most women orgasm.
4. You won't become 'addicted' to your vibrator.
Using it often won't put you off having the 'real thing' - quite the opposite!
Women who regularly use love toys have higher libido and orgasm quickly and report less loving dysfunction. The only 'bad' thing that can happen is feeling numb from having it up too high. Panic not - It's temporary.
5. Only 20 percent of women can orgasm purely from intercourse.
His ex-girlfriend, who used to climax every time, effortlessly, within minutes of him penetrating, was lying.
6. he'll be useless in bed if he can't kiss.
This is especially true of men who stick a stiff tongue down your throat the second you lock lips.
7. The male reproductive system is join-the-dots stuff. The female reproductive system is complicated and not terribly well thought through.
Who thought putting the clitoris outside the vagina would be a good idea?
8. Anyone can be good in bed. But you need an excellent working knowledge of your subject and experience and be willing to take and give feedback.
9. It's obvious if you don't like love. All the tips and tricks in the world can't teach you how to fake I'll-die-if-I-don't-have-you-now desire
10. The chances of you both climaxing together are doubtful. So let's all stop pretending and faking just because that's what couples do on the telly and in the movies.
11. If you fancy a threesome, do it with someone you're not in love with. It goes much smoother in your head than in your bed, and is is not much fun if you're a frothing mess of jealousy and insecure paranoia.
12. You'll have a much better love life if you match up with someone with the same libido. Everyone's love drive spikes at the start, but about eight months in, you'll get a good idea of how much love you both naturally crave. Mismatched love drives are the main reason couples fight about love. If you can possibly manage it, stick with your tribe.
13. No one is born a brilliant lover. Love skills can be taught, and brushing up on the basics just to check you're on the right track is something everyone should do. We can all improve.
14. It doesn't mean you're boring in bed if he wants to try something new. Let go of the concept that 'you should be enough.'
It's hard enough to make love happily to the same person for the rest of your life. If you don't have variety, you've lost the game before it's even started.
15. Men are visual. They like looking at sexy things.
It's usually that innocent.
16. Both men and women like foreplay. Quickies are great occasionally but dreary and unsatisfying if that's all you're offered.
17. Don't confuse love and lust. You spend a tiny proportion of your lives having love.
It helps if you like hanging out together the rest of the time.
18. Men like to be touched twice as hard as women. Their skin is thicker. This doesn't mean you should be rough, though.
19. Giving oral love without using your hands is as effective as bobbing for apples in a bucket of water with your hands behind your back.
21. The more different ways you can orgasm, the more orgasms you'll have. This means forcing yourself to try a new way to climax if you can only do it one way.
22. The first time you have love shapes you forever.
If losing your virginity was a positive experience, you're more likely to view love as healthy and enjoyable and lovers as lovely people who can be trusted.
If your first time still haunts you years later, consider working it through with a good love therapist.
23. Men aren't just out for love. But it's easy to spot the ones who are. They won't hang around past date three if you don't put out.
24. There is such a thing as bad oral love. And not all men adore oral love.
25. Erections come and go during love. It doesn't mean he's not enjoying it; he was focusing on you and not receiving any physical stimulation.
26. It's often easier to orgasm solo than it is with a partner, especially when it's with someone new.
27. The most likely time you'll fake it is at the start. You don't want to seem anything less than perfect. Later, when you start teaching each other what really does for you, you'll have your first real orgasm.
28. But that's OK because lots of women do, too. Don't read too much into it.
29. Stop worrying about your weight.
Men are far more forgiving of your wobbly bits than you are. He's not looking at your thighs and thinking, 'Ew! Porridge', he's thinking, 'Let me get my hands on those.' Suggestive is a state of mind, not a body size.
30. All love positions are a variant of the primary five: him on top, her on top, side-by-side, from behind, and standing.
31. If you never initiate love, your partner will feel you only have love to please them. Besides, starting love makes you feel powerful, which is an aphrodisiac.
32. Women feel like love at certain times of the month and are repulsed by the idea of others. This is normal. The female libido fluctuates wildly during the monthly cycle.
Let your partner know this information so they don't take it personally – and where you're at.
33. Real men don't always get erections. Stress, age, alcohol, and lots of medication all affect them.
You don't need an erect penis to have a good time in bed. Most women have their best, most intense orgasms through oral love.
34. It comes in all different shapes and sizes. They've all been 'tidied up,' bleached, and waxed.
35. If you're considering getting a 'designer vagina,' you are barking mad. Vaginal tightening after a particularly horrible birth is one thing, but opting for a 'labial face-lift' is as risky as the above-the-belt version.
Except worse because there's a risk of permanent loss of sensation if too much skin is removed or ultra-sensitivity if a nerve is exposed.
This effectively means your ability to orgasm is compromised - or removed. You look fine as you are. Really.
36. Having love purely to get the cuddle at the end isn't healthy. See a friend or your Mum instead of a lover if that's what you're after. Better still, get a dog.
37. Some men ask for love when what they really want is love.
Women aren't the only ones who use love to get affection. Having passion is a sneaky, 'manly' way of getting close to you.
38. Love long-term is very different than love short-term. It doesn't mean you don't fancy your partner because you're not spontaneously gagging for it every day, six years in.
39. He's not a mind reader. No one knows what you feel like at any moment other than you.
40. Mouths are suitable for many things, but telling your partner what you like and don't like is the most critical use.
41. Refuse to feel guilty about your fantasies. What you get up to in your imagination is your business.
42. Love is smelly, noisy, sweaty and unflattering. Leave your ego at the door and replace it with your sense of humor. If you haven't broken wind at the worst possible moment, you're probably playing it too safe.
43. The more you have love, the more you want love. Stop having it, and you'll forget how good it feels.
43. The more you have love, the more you want love. Stop having it, and you'll forget how good it feels.
44. Think before you share your fantasies. Make what you're doing clear, or you may come home to a 'surprise' you didn't expect.
45. It's OK to stop having love from time to time.
Sometimes life is too stressful (work worries, death of a parent) or children too demanding. Taking a love break takes the pressure off and stops either of you freaking out because you know it's not permanent.
46. Kids kill your love life. But you can wrestle it back again once they've hit age two.
47. If you can talk through your love problems, you can nearly always solve them.
48. Don't try to put yourself in a box. Women are far more erotically plastic than men and much more likely to be aroused by the person rather than their gender.
49. If you feel bad after love, you sleep with the wrong person.
50. Love is about give and take. You don't have to reciprocate in the same session, but if you're constantly lying back and accepting, you're a selfish lover. Not sexy. Not lovable.
45. It's OK to stop having love from time to time.
Sometimes life is too stressful (work worries, death of a parent) or children too demanding. Taking a love break takes the pressure off and stops either of you freaking out because you know it's not permanent.
46. Kids kill your love life. But you can wrestle it back again once they've hit age two.
47. If you can talk through your love problems, you can nearly always solve them.
48. Don't try to put yourself in a box. Women are far more erotically plastic than men and much more likely to be aroused by the person rather than their gender.
49. If you feel bad after love, you sleep with the wrong person.
50. Love is about give and take. You don't have to reciprocate in the same session, but if you're constantly lying back and accepting, you're a selfish lover. Not sexy. Not lovable.
